Integrity

What is Integrity?

An article written in loving memory and special acknowledgement to Andries, my mentor, master and friend – thank you for teaching and living Integrity…

Integrity may mean different things to different people… for some it may be family values, or standing firm in what you believe in , or perhaps being true to yourself, honesty, reflecting morals and values.

But what about this definition:

“Integrity means; what I think, what I say and what I do are ONE thing” – I think it, I say it, I do it.

Keeping promises! Communicating openly! Saying NO! (this is the difficult one)…

“Oh no!” you may think. I can’t say what I think!? What if I hurt or offend someone? Well, what if you keep it inside and carry resentment, anger and disappointment?

It is not WHAT we say; it is HOW we say it. Do we speak with the intent of being mindful or with the intent NOT to be hurtful? If we intend being mindful; it is then we can speak our truth, say what we want to say.

We are afraid to communicate in case of judgement. We feel we are not worthy of getting our own way, of giving to ourselves. We are afraid we may hurt someone’s feelings.

I believe that we can live our integrity, if we keep a pure intent, a mindful approach and the intent to resolve and understand. Be mindful of how the other person would feel – act as the recipient of the communication.

Mindful. Such a beautiful word, with such a powerful meaning. It says “I care how you feel”… isn’t it an awesome healing action?

Yes, it’s difficult, I know as I strive to live it every day. I can also tell you, that integrity can be very lonely at times. I’m often thinking, “Am I the only person that is honest here?” or , “This is difficult, hard work!”

It is very powerful knowing within oneself that you are clear. Clear with yourself and those around you.

Much love, till next time

Michelle