Judging Judgement?

I wonder if we realise the impact the cross and the tick  have in our lives…

Something or some situation is either right or wrong.  If it is right (according to our own judgement); we are comfortable, secure and feel ok to talk about it or take an appropriate (right?) action.

If something is wrong (according to our own judgement); we choose to hide it away a little, perhaps not deal with it. We are too scared to confront it or someone or something.  We don’t take action, or perhaps we delay it – (what you resist will persist).

Wouldn’t it be easier to not judge at all? Perhaps remove the x (cross) and v (tick) from our lives and choose to look at things differently?

What if we saw things just as they were, not putting it in a specific box, but rather view the situation or action as IT IS. Asking does it work or doesn’t it?  In my opinion; if it then doesn’t work for us, we can then ask or seek a satisfactory solution.  Won’t it be easier to deal with AS IS?

“It doesn’t work for me!” prompts the question… ”What can I do about it?”

“It is wrong!” prompts the question… “Don’t go there, stay away?”

Perhaps more importantly is the judgement we constantly pass on ourselves.  It is wrong for me to be overweight. It is wrong for me to be like this or that. It is wrong for me to…

We constantly beat ourselves up!  Sure there are principles and behaviours we have that may not be serving us at a specific time but looking at it, without judgement, but rather saying, this aspect of me is not working for me at the moment, what can I do about it?  Won’t it make it a little easier to deal with our realities?

This made me think about the principle “living in the moment”.  It is NOW that is important, what IS, is important.  Things that may not have worked for us yesterday are dealt with, the lesson learned – what is it right now that is not serving you? Holding you back?  Right now, at the present moment is what IS. It is what we can do something about… and so we can live from moment to moment… experiencing reality as it unfolds for us.

Without judgement… have I been judging judgement?  What will the impact be on our children if we judge them less?  80% is right, 50% is wrong?  Being the best is right, being second best is wrong?  How much pressure do we put on our children and our loved ones by passing judgement?

Can’t we rather teach our children and our loved ones to deal with what is?
To acknowledge when something doesn’t work and then being able to (or allowed to?) deal with that, without judgement, openly and honestly?

Wouldn’t it be easier to approach someone or to talk or confront a situation if you knew that you would not be judged… but be understood?

It is my wish that we can instil this into everyone we come into contact with.

Love and Light to you